Ways to Bring it Up
Ways of bringing OMGYes up to your partner that worked really well for our early users:
Suggesting it as a fun night together
It’s a jumping off point for couples – watch together then try the ones that seem more intriguing.
Knowledge that’s literally new to the world
These are new discoveries. These aren’t things anyone could know yet – they’re entirely new ways of thinking from new research that had never happened before. You can start with the research - the same way you’d sit around a laptop together and read about any other big news.
Go through the site alone first, then with your partner
Find techniques and variations of your favorite things, then show those to your partner.
Fun and Light – As a movie night
These women are funny and sex is pretty entertaining – so suggest OMGYes instead of watching a movie or show one night.
Like a position book from the future
It’s inspiration and new ideas for things to try in bed.
Because the relationship is strong
“We’re at a point where we can really talk about this stuff, which is awesome. Let’s explore even more.”
Mark of a good relationship is constantly exploring together
OMGYes is a good way to stay curious and explore even more things we enjoy.
Words for things we already like
There are things we already do that are amazing – OMGYes lets us find the words for them all so it will be easier to talk about them.
Use it alone to get a deeper understanding of yourself
Then show your partner the things you want to try.
Ways to Bring it Up
Who It's For
Privacy & Security
Who We Are
Who It's For
OMGYes is for women, men and couples, together or solo - anyone curious about more ways to make a great thing even better.
Why women love it
Open and Comfortable
“I love that there are older women on the site. Like big sisters sharing their wisdom. And all the women so openly and comfortably talk about what they’ve discovered with beautiful, sensitive cinematography.”
“It’s so surprisingly candid - totally an eye-opener how different they are. It made me want to explore what all my favorite things are and now I have words for them.”
Light and Fun
“It feels like hanging out with real people - not like a lecture or a book. I looked at it together with my girlfriends with wine and we laughed our asses off - in a good way. It got us talking about all this stuff we’ve never said to each other before.”
“I’ve read so many books and seen so many diagrams but never had any idea how they applied to MY body. This site is real - and each technique is something I now totally understand and use.”
Words for my Favorites
“What I love is going through it all and finding the parts of the best sex I’ve ever had - and now I have words for those things and something to point to and say, ‘do that!’”
Do Once, Enjoy Forever
“I spend way more than this on a decent vibrator. And those break in a few months. This stuff I’ll use for life.”
Why men love it
“What’s so great is that it’s not porn people or ‘sex experts,’ it’s like regular people being open and honest and saying, hey, I’ll show you and let you practice with me.”
More Tools for Your Toolbox
“This is like an arsenal of backup plans. If one thing isn’t working, I’ve got like 12 more. And I understand how to read signals and what to ask to fine-tune each one.”
What Really Works
“All the techniques I have that actually work - I was taught by a woman who was really open with me. OMGYes is like a bunch more of those women being really open with me like that.”
“We already have great sex - but getting more perspective is always good because variety makes sex better.”
What It’s Like
“It’s like a dozen women said, hey, why not come over and we’ll each show you exactly how we like to be touched, and then let you try on us till you really understand each technique. Highlight of my year.”
Why couples love it
There’s Always More
“Kind of like there are always more positions to explore- this is another whole set of things to try that I’d never seen anywhere else.”
Bringing It To The Bedroom
“This is the kind of thing to do on a Friday night with wine, and to look forward to all day. We do it instead of watching a TV show some nights and love it.”
“It’s something comfortable I can point to- mix that one with that one- those are what I like. Before I understood how what I liked felt, but not what, specifically, to ask for.”
Didn’t think it was possible
“We already had orgasms so figured that we didn’t need to explore more. But it’s been a blast and we found new things that we do all the time now. My favorite technique wasn’t physical but was about how thinking about coming can make you not come. TOTALLY true and loved the solutions for that.”
Finally! A grown-up and beautiful approach to women’s pleasure
“It’s welcoming and relaxed so we can do the site together. It’s not porny but it’s also not like an instructor teaching stuff. We love it.”
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No Personal Information
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The payment processor (paypal, for instance) is the only one that gets the personal card info and only during the transaction. None of that info even goes through our company servers.
OMGYes is a website, not an app, and works right in the browser of your iPhone, iPad, android or laptop/desktop. There’s no app or software to download.
While the text and videos are playable on all devices that can play web video, the touchable simulation pushes technology to its limit so works only on newer versions of browsers and newer devices. See the list below.
On Your Mobile & Tablet Devices
On Your Desktop or Laptop
Android phone or tablet released 2012 or later running Android 4.2+
Women’s sexual pleasure has hidden in the shadows for too long. It’s time to get it all out in the open.
There’s so much that’s been left unsaid, unasked, and unknown. All because of a taboo that, we believe, will look absurd in a few decades—the same way taboos from the 1950’s about oral sex and homosexuality are absurd to us now. We want to accelerate that transition.
OMGYes is an entirely new way to explore fascinating, useful and fun information that’s been uncovered in new research. Let’s lift the veil and take an honest look at the specific ways women actually find pleasure.
Why women’s pleasure is still so mysterious:
1. Complexity gets confused for ‘unknowability’
The anatomy is so sensitive and varies so much. A few millimeters or a slight difference in angle, pressure or rhythm can make the difference between discomfort and pleasure. And what feels best changes so much over time: over the course of arousal from warm-up through buildup and orgasm, day to day and life-stage to life stage.
This complexity has gotten confused for ‘unknowability.’ Even doctors and experts throw up their hands and say ‘everyone’s different, you have to figure out what works for you or your partner’ as if that’s the end of the discussion. Since when has variability stopped human curiosity and research?
2. It just hadn’t been researched before
Instead of reliable, agreed-upon facts, the specific techniques and the ways women vary have been left to pop-culture to make up - lists of tips, opinions, rumors, sayings.
Sex research has been about general behaviors, like percentages of people who masturbate or use vibrators. Or the biology of what happens inside the body during sex and orgasm. But the actual techniques for women’s pleasure just hadn’t been researched before. Why? The large institutions that conduct research usually have at least a few very conservative supporters. And, for them, the specifics for women’s pleasure are still too taboo and uncomfortable to look at directly and specifically.
When there's no shared basis of understanding and lack of open conversation, myths and misinformation flourish and go unchecked.
3. The Hollywood myth
Depictions in media would have us believe that after a bit of missionary position or sex up against a wall, she’ll have a mind-blowing orgasm, every time, in under a minute. That’s the script even in tame romantic comedies. The great Hollywood lover telepathically ‘already just knows the moves.’ He doesn’t ask for any feedback and she doesn’t offer any.
4. There’s no specific, reliable source of information.
The internet has benefited almost every other part of our lives. We can easily look up reliable information about almost anything - but it's hard to find accurate information about the details of women's pleasure.
Anything else we do in life, there are established truths that are agreed - and our personal knowledge builds on what every previous generation has discovered.
It’s not just the religious or super-conservative that consider these specifics ‘obscene and indecent content’ - it’s the media companies, search engines and app-stores, too. We live in an era when graphic violence is acceptable but even the word, ‘clitoris,’ gets bleeped out on TV.
5. There aren’t shared words yet for the details.
One of the casualties of the taboo around women’s pleasure is that there aren’t words for the important ways touch can vary. There aren’t specific words for the kinds of detailed techniques that matter so much. There are vague, clinical words like stimulate and vague, pop-culture words like fingering and rubbing.
This lack of language makes it far harder to explore and find new things that work. Imagine trying a new recipe, but none of the ingredients or measurements have names. Or ordering from a menu but all of the dishes are called the same thing.
Is talking about these details that important? It turns out yes, it is. Women who are able to talk specifically about what makes sex more pleasurable for them are 8x more likely to be happier in their relationships!
Couples who constantly explore new ways to increase pleasure are 5 times more likely to be happier in their relationships and 12 times more likely to be sexually satisfied.
OMGYes gathers research-based truths and gives them words.
OMGYes is a collection of the "a-ha" moments - realizations and techniques women and their partners have discovered, that they wish they could go back in time and show themselves.
Novelist Willa Cather once said, “There are only two or three human stories, and they go on repeating themselves as fiercely as if they had never happened before.”
What was surprising was that the research revealed the vast majority of women share very similar insights about pleasure and how to make it better.
No matter their age, women shared very similar realizations, techniques, frustrations, and lessons they wish they could go back in time and tell themselves and their partners. Insights about everything from specific ways of squeezing the clit in between surrounding skin to ways to stop overthinking in bed. From tricks to say what you like without hurting feelings to the ways certain rhythms of movement change the sensations building up to orgasm and result in different kinds of orgasms.
We’ve gathered the most prevalent techniques and the ones that make the biggest difference. And we’ve given them words that come from the women themselves. Language that pinpoints the little details that women have discovered are so important.
Only if it’s real, personal and explicit will it really bust myths and improve our lives.
Reading about these techniques and insights is very different from seeing the real thing, trying them and arriving at your own conclusions. When you realize something from experience or from a friend’s, it stays with you. It changes you. It makes it real, not theoretical.
When you can look someone in the eye and relate to them - and they share their true experience, we take in that information very differently. So that’s how we tried to make OMGYes - turning research-based insights into something personal - so these insights would really stick.
The most effective way to bust the myths around women’s pleasure is to really see the actual diversity and variability. Not the concept of it or a description of it - the reality of it. With actual, relatable women who love almost opposite techniques. And real anatomy, not just abstracted line-drawings with arrows.
After seeing the content on OMGYes, people consistently say, “what’s fascinating is HOW DIFFERENT THE TECHNIQUES ARE!” or “I kind of thought that what feels best changes over time, but wow.”
In this way, everyone can realize, through real experience, what we’re trying to get across - that it’s impossible to ‘already just know the moves’ with a new partner or with the same partner on a different day. That the best way to approach a lover is with an open mind, listening and asking for feedback. That giving and getting feedback doesn’t have to be awkward but can be really sexy and fun. That sexual pleasure can get better and better with exploration. That things that may feel ‘abnormal’ actually aren’t. That there are always so many new things to try - and staying curious makes for far better sex and happier relationships.
Scientists and researchers have uncovered the inner workings of almost everything in the world. But the only funded large-scale sex research has either been biological (the physiology of what happens in the body during sex) or behavioral (general activities without the details, like the percentage of women who have orgasms or use vibrators). So what about the actual techniques and insights that women across the country discover that lead to more pleasure? That’s still an uncharted frontier, when it comes to science and research.
So we conducted the first-ever large-scale studies to get the details. And we’ll continue to do more and more research about sexual pleasure. The first batch of insights makes up the basis of Season One of OMGYes - breaking down the main ways women vary in how they find pleasure, and insights for women, men and couples about how to make it even better.
How we did the research
We first did over 1,000 in-depth interviews with women across the country. Then, in partnership with researchers at Indiana University and The Kinsey Institute, we surveyed another nationally representative group of 1,000 women.
Nationally representative means a slice of the country, across geographies, ages and subcultures - getting an accurate snapshot of what regular people actually do and think, without bias from the selection process.
Research Methodology Detail (for research-lovers)
The first 1,000 interviews were conducted by OMGYes staff over video-chat with women of all ages, around the country. These women shared:
How they discovered what works for them
What the a-ha moments were in their sexual journeys
The specific techniques they’ve found, both alone and with partners, that lead to more pleasure and better orgasms
Detailed ways they communicate those techniques to partners
What psychological or relationship insights they’ve had that have led to more pleasure
What they wish they could go back in time and tell their younger selves about pleasure
What they wish all partners knew about women’s pleasure
Then, we conducted the first-ever large-scale, nationally representative study on women’s pleasure. Asking the same kinds of questions from a nationally representative cross-section of the country.
The 2015 OMGYes Study of Women’s Sexual Pleasure was conducted during June 2015 by researchers Debby Herbenick, PhD, assistant Professor at Indiana University School of Public Health and researcher at The Kinsey Institute and Brian Dodge, PhD of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion of the Indiana University School of Public Health. The survey was conducted online in collaboration with GfK’s Knowledgepanel, a probability-based web panel designed to be representative of the United States, and was completed by 1,055 adult women.The data was then weighted according to recent (March 2014) data from the Current Population Survey (CPS), taking into account demographics such as gender, race/Hispanic ethnicity, region of the country, education, household income, and (based on 2013 CPS data) internet access.
This is such a fascinating frontier when it comes to research. We’ve just shown the tip of the iceberg. This is just the beginning. Future seasons of OMGYes will explore other topics, in depth.
OMGYes doesn’t and can’t cover everything.
As we all know, the relationship between two lovers is crucial to sexual enjoyment. Physical touch and physical sensation are only part of it. But talking about relationships, in detail, isn’t taboo, and there are already lots of resources available out there to make them better.
Our goal is to shed light on the important parts that are taboo and don’t get talked about. The parts that get left out of books about love and even about sex.
So we decided, with Season One, to focus on genital touch, as this is an area that has historically been ignored. For now our emphasis is on external and clitoral touch. Our next seasons will explore other topics that concern pleasure, and research is already under way.
We will continue talking to women from a variety of perspectives and experience – we realize that some perspectives are not included in this first season. We have so much to learn from each other, and a rich diversity of experience only adds to what we can learn and explore.
Variety of perspectives: this is just the beginning
Who We Are
We’re a group of researchers, filmmakers, engineers, designers, educators and sexologists who are passionate about making an honest, practical resource about women’s pleasure. We wanted this information for ourselves and couldn’t find it! Just knowing that ‘everyone’s different’ isn’t as useful as knowing the specific ways we’re different and being able to discuss them.
Our company is officially called, For Goodness Sake LLC, and our motto is Tech + Cause + Courage.
Is this an app? (No, it’s a website)
It’s a website - so there’s no software to download - it all happens in the browser of your laptop, desktop, tablet or phone. The videos run on most any device - and the touchable video works on most all desktops and laptops using your mouse or trackpad. Because the touchable video is so graphically intense (ha) it only runs on more recent, more powerful tablets and phones. Check to see if your device is compatible here.
Is this for women? For men? For couples?
Yes. OMGYes is for anybody who cares about women’s sexual pleasure and wants to explore it even more. Around half of our users are women and half men. Some people use it alone, some use it together with their partners.
I already know what I’m doing, why should I buy this?
OMGYes isn’t about the basics. It’s not a how-to guide. Most of the techniques and ways to intensify pleasure are things that had literally never been researched before. You’ll explore new things to try, new perspectives on things you already do, and just get more tools for your toolbox.
Is it a one-time payment or a monthly subscription thing? (It’s one-time only!)
Any purchase on OMGYes is a one-time charge. You buy it once and it’s yours. Like buying a book. There are no subscriptions, therefore no need to ever cancel anything.
How much content is there? And how much time will it take me?
We did a lot of testing with users to find the sweet spot of being in-depth but not too long. It turns out that shorter videos are better than really long ones. So our editors make sure the videos get right to the point - we try to get each of the 50 videos to under 4 minutes. You can go through all of OMGYes in a weekend - and the time passes quickly because the women are so funny. It’s like hanging out with really open friends.
Why isn’t it free?
The big institutions that give grants won’t go near a project about women’s pleasure—which is unfortunate. So, to keep the project going and to make season two, we have to charge for it.
What are the benefits for guys / women’s partners?
Lots! One user wrote in and said that he learned all the things that worked best in bed from one really open partner who showed him what worked, and let him practice until it was clear. OMGYes is like lots of women being really open like that.
What’s the feedback in the simulation?
Each of the women on the site collaborates with our engineers to create a coded model of her preferences, reactions and sensitivities. And she records lots and lots of audio feedback so, as you touch her simulation, you get the kinds of feedback she’d give.
Why did you make the touchable part?
The simulations are a way of modeling different ways women actually give feedback to guide their partners to what feels best for them. This turns out to be the most important 'technique' when it comes to women's pleasure - guiding, suggesting, experimenting, listening and responding in real-time. (It's also a part of sex completely missing from sex scenes in TV/movies/porn!) So, after you explore each topic and one of the women shows her particular variation, you can try it yourself on your touchscreen or computer and actually experience her style of feedback on how you can fine-tune what you're doing to make it feel even better.
How will I be notified when there’s new content?
When you buy OMGYes, we’ll send you an email when there’s new content. But if you ever don’t want to receive emails from us, we make it easy to opt out - we hate spam and promise never to do it.
How secure is the credit card payment?
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Are queer women represented?
Yes! Several women on the site identify as queer.
Why don’t I hear any audio in the touchable video? (Firefox users)
Firefox versions 43 and 44 have a bug related to WebAudio. It has been fixed in version 45, so try upgrading your browser, or using Chrome.
Who died and made you the experts on this stuff?
Gosh, we really hope nobody died.
We’re not claiming to be experts - we wanted to create a resource that was based in the latest research about sexual pleasure and we wanted real people to serve as the guides so it’s personal and real.
Through the creation of this series, we’ve certainly learned that there’s no one-best-way to achieve pleasure and that one woman’s “expertise” may not work for another. That’s why we’ve pulled together a wide range of experiences to give you lots of different things to explore. Each technique has different variations and they can be used in different combinations - more tools for your toolbox.
Why is it explicit? Why not put the findings into a book?
The taboo that makes people uncomfortable seeing women’s anatomy is the same one that has kept women’s pleasure so secret for so long. That’s the taboo we’re trying to get rid of. We think people are ready for an honest, clear-headed look at the details that make all the difference.
Subtle variations in pressure or angle or consistency actually feel really different. What one woman calls a ‘circular motion on the clit’ could actually hurt for another woman who also likes a ‘circular motion on the clit.’ You really do have to get up close and actually see what the variations are - and why they feel so different.
This is great. How can I help?
Thanks. We think it’s cool too. There is something you could do: help us spread the word. Unfortunately, content about sex, no matter how great, is kept to the darker corners of the Internet, which limits our ability to advertise and reach the people who would appreciate OMGYes. We’d love if you could send a link to a friend, post it, pin it, tweet it, help us spread the word.
Who are you people?
We are engineers, educators, researchers and filmmakers, who, frankly, wanted this information for ourselves. We couldn’t find it and decided it needed to exist. We left our other jobs and have had a wild ride ever since. Read more about us and why we made it here.
Isn’t every woman different in how they find pleasure?
But people are each different in most ways but there are still huge fields of study and research about all the other ways we work. We think that “everyone’s different” has been a way people have avoided a taboo topic.
One of the most interesting findings from our research study is that there are actually shared techniques and variations across the majority of women. That’s why we’re presenting the most prevalent insights and techniques from our research. And rather than being like recipes - the techniques are more like ingredients that you can combine in thousands of different ways as you make them your own.
Is this really the first-ever research on the topic?
The specifics of women’s pleasure have gone un-researched this long because the big institutions that fund research play it safe. Pharma studies disorders, Public Health studies general behaviors, Medicine and Biology study what happens inside the body during orgasm. Those are all considered safe to research because they’re far enough away from what’s still considered ‘indecent’ in our culture: the specific, actual ways of touching that are pleasurable for women.
What about penetration?
Hey, don’t get us wrong, we’re BIG fans of penetration. And many of the techniques touch upon penetration. But our research showed that there was a huge playground of sexual pleasure to be explored beyond penetration. In fact, 73% of women in our study said that clitoral stimulation DURING penetration leads to more orgasms and better orgasms. And since the details of clitoral stimulation are the topic that hadn’t been researched yet, that’s what the first season of OMGYes is designed to explore. Additional seasons in the future will go into lots of other aspects of sexual pleasure.
Is the touchable video a live webcam thing? (no.)
No. It’s not live. To develop the technology, we filmed the ways each woman moves and stitched all the images together in a nifty new way we thought up. And each woman worked with our engineers to program in her sensitivities and patterns of reaction so that, as you touch, you get audio feedback so you can fine-tune the technique.
Who are these women?
The women on the site are not actresses. They were inspired to share their personal experiences and wanted to set the record straight about the realities of women’s pleasure. They come from all over the USA - and have diverse careers, families and lifestyles.
Will my purchase allow me to access other products in the future?
When you buy Season One, you get these twelve techniques - and any content we add to those techniques in the future. But then, when we release Season Two, that will be a separate series that you’d have to purchase separately.
What does ‘Season One’ mean?
We’re going to keep doing more and more research and releasing more seasons of insights and techniques. We’ve just skimmed the surface - there’s SO MUCH MORE to discover.
The first season of 12 episodes is mostly about external stimulation. These techniques can be complicated and had literally never been researched before. But there are also episodes about other prevalent a-ha moments that really changed things for women we spoke to. One episode is all about giving and reading feedback, and another about how much thinking can get in the way (or enhance) pleasure. In the future, we’re also planning to cover penetration techniques and angles, how pleasure changes after childbirth, and how pleasure changes after menopause.
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Why is it called "OMGYes"?
"OMG Yes" is a commonly used acronym for "Oh My God Yes!" in English. It's what someone says to exclaim pleasure and delight in and out of the bedroom.
Why am I experiencing issues with video captions on my iPad?
Unfortunately, if you are using iOS versions 8.0 or lower on your iPad, the captions might not work on your device. We recommend upgrading to the latest version of iOS to fix the problem.
Is OMGYes translated into additional languages?
Yes! You can switch the language you view OMGYes.com in with the language options in the bottom left corner of every page. If your language isn't displayed there yet, check back for more translations soon!